How We Met

Answer side by side

What was happening in your life that made room for a new friend just then?

The question sits across the top; you each answer on your own page. Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — agree, argue, or correct the record.

Why this question

The move, the break-up, the new job, the gap somebody else had left.

And once you’ve both answered

Do you think we'd have found each other in a different season?

Answering it honestly

  • Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — properly, not a skim. Your page can agree, argue, or correct the record.
  • Be specific. Dates, places, what was playing, who else was there. Wrong details are welcome; they're evidence.
  • Don't negotiate a joint version. Two accounts that refuse to match are worth more than one polished one.

And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.

More from How We Met

Tell the story of the day we met, exactly as you remember it — and for once, don't read the other page first.

What did you actually think of me when we met? Not the polite version.

Describe the place where we met, as it really was.