How We Met

Answer side by side

Describe the place where we met, as it really was.

The question sits across the top; you each answer on your own page. Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — agree, argue, or correct the record.

Why this question

The room, the noise, the smell, the questionable lighting, what was playing, who else was there.

And once you’ve both answered

If we walked back in today, what would hit first?

Answering it honestly

  • Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — properly, not a skim. Your page can agree, argue, or correct the record.
  • Be specific. Dates, places, what was playing, who else was there. Wrong details are welcome; they're evidence.
  • Don't negotiate a joint version. Two accounts that refuse to match are worth more than one polished one.

And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.

More from How We Met

How easily could we have missed each other entirely?

What first impression of me turned out to be completely wrong?

Retell the story of how we met as if you were giving the speech at my next big birthday.