How We Met

Answer side by side

Who made the first move towards friendship — and what was it?

The question sits across the top; you each answer on your own page. Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — agree, argue, or correct the record.

Why this question

The invitation, the borrowed thing, the message that didn't strictly need sending.

And once you’ve both answered

Was it braver than it looked at the time?

Answering it honestly

  • Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — properly, not a skim. Your page can agree, argue, or correct the record.
  • Be specific. Dates, places, what was playing, who else was there. Wrong details are welcome; they're evidence.
  • Don't negotiate a joint version. Two accounts that refuse to match are worth more than one polished one.

And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.

More from How We Met

What first impression of me turned out to be completely wrong?

Retell the story of how we met as if you were giving the speech at my next big birthday.

What is the first clear picture you have of me — the version of me you met before we were really friends yet?