How We Met

Answer side by side

What version of yourself were you trying to project when we met — and how was that going?

The question sits across the top; you each answer on your own page. Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — agree, argue, or correct the record.

Why this question

The haircut, the opinions you were trying on, the person you were pretending to already be.

And once you’ve both answered

When did you first let the act slip in front of me?

Answering it honestly

  • Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — properly, not a skim. Your page can agree, argue, or correct the record.
  • Be specific. Dates, places, what was playing, who else was there. Wrong details are welcome; they're evidence.
  • Don't negotiate a joint version. Two accounts that refuse to match are worth more than one polished one.

And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.

More from How We Met

What is the first clear picture you have of me — the version of me you met before we were really friends yet?

Tell the story of the day we met, exactly as you remember it — and for once, don't read the other page first.

What did you actually think of me when we met? Not the polite version.