Forward Together

Post this one

What do you hope this friendship still is in ten years' time?

Built for distance. Answer it apart, wherever you are, and send it — post it, photograph it, read it down the phone. Then it’s the other one’s move.

Why this question

Not the big life events. The actual quality of how we are with each other.

And once you’ve both answered

What would we need to keep doing, or stop doing, for that to happen? Post this one — futures read well from a distance. Your move.

Answering it honestly

  • Answer it on your own, wherever you are, before you see theirs. Distance is the feature here, not the obstacle.
  • Send the actual answer — post the page, photograph it, read it down the phone. Then it's their move.
  • Resist the urge to soften it in transit. The unedited version is the one worth posting.

And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.

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Describe us as properly old friends — decades from now, still at it.

What new chapters are coming in your life — and what role do you want me to play in them?

Together, but eyes down: each write the toast you'd give for the other at the next big occasion.