“Which phone call between us can you still hear?”

The question sits across the top; you each answer on your own page. Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — agree, argue, or correct the record.

Why this question

The one you remember answering — where you were standing, what your stomach did.

And once you’ve both answered

What did we actually say — and what were we really saying?

Answering it honestly

Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — properly, not a skim. Your page can agree, argue, or correct the record.
Be specific. Dates, places, what was playing, who else was there. Wrong details are welcome; they're evidence.
Don't negotiate a joint version. Two accounts that refuse to match are worth more than one polished one.

And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.

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“What is a turning point in your life that I was there for, but you have never properly told me how it felt at the time?”

“Tell me about a day everything changed for you — with me somewhere in the frame.”

“Pick one of the big official days of your life — wedding, birth, divorce, diagnosis, the lot — and write down where I actually was in it.”