“What was a turning point in the friendship itself — a moment the “us” changed gear?”

The question sits across the top; you each answer on your own page. Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — agree, argue, or correct the record.

Why this question

Not a life event. A friendship event. They're rarer, and harder to spot.

And once you’ve both answered

Did either of us notice at the time?

Answering it honestly

Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — properly, not a skim. Your page can agree, argue, or correct the record.
Be specific. Dates, places, what was playing, who else was there. Wrong details are welcome; they're evidence.
Don't negotiate a joint version. Two accounts that refuse to match are worth more than one polished one.

And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.

More from Turning Points & Private History

“Pick one of the big official days of your life — wedding, birth, divorce, diagnosis, the lot — and write down where I actually was in it.”

“Take a story we both tell smoothly at parties, and write the unedited version.”

“When the move, the job or the love rearranged our geography, what did you privately think it would do to us?”