Turning Points & Private History
Answer side by side“What grief have we carried together?”
The question sits across the top; you each answer on your own page. Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — agree, argue, or correct the record.
Why this question
The loss one of us took the brunt of — and what the other one quietly did with their share.
And once you’ve both answered
What did it change about how we hold each other up?
Answering it honestly
- Whoever writes second reads the first answer before writing — properly, not a skim. Your page can agree, argue, or correct the record.
- Be specific. Dates, places, what was playing, who else was there. Wrong details are welcome; they're evidence.
- Don't negotiate a joint version. Two accounts that refuse to match are worth more than one polished one.
And the house rule, whatever the mode: leave a blank rather than write a lie. A blank can be filled later; a lie sits in the archive forever, and you both have to live with the paperwork.
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